success secrets of happy people and those who succeed in life revealed

What is your metric of success? Your social status or the amount of money you make? The total valuation of your properties? How quickly you own fancy gadgets gadgets before your peers? Or the number of foreign trips you make? Or some points which are not written here?

I have some bad news. If you measure success with tangible results, you will never have enough. Someone will always make more money than you, or can afford more expensive tastes than you. I’m sure even Columbian drug lords think that they don’t make enough money.

nice guys dont finish last

Serial entrepreneur Danny Shader pitched a business idea to investor David Hornik. Hornik loved it and quickly offered Shader a term sheet showing his keenness to invest. Logic dictated that he make a lucrative offer with a short deadline so that Shader accepted fast.

But David Hornik did the opposite. He set no deadline, and encouraged Shader to pitch to other investors. Hornik sent Shader a list of forty powerful references who could attest for his caliber as an investor, hoping that would sign with him. A week later, Shader called and said, “I’m signing with another investor.” Hornik was devastated.

We shudder at the thought of being a nice guy. Being taken for granted, being burdened with others’ work, being friend-zoned, and losing out on opportunities which others grab. Who wants punishment for being good in today’s evil world? That’s it! No more Mr. Nice Guy!

Wikipedia describes a nice guy as a teenage or adult who is perceived as gentle, compassionate, sensitive and vulnerable. He puts others’ needs before his own, avoids confrontation and generally acts nicely. But we often consider him to be an unassertive person who does not express his true feelings (this applies to all genders). As a result, he ends up feeling used and disrespected. “Ruthless tactics succeed more than kindness,” said baseball manager Leo Dorucher. No wonder nice guys finish last.

Having a bad day

Have you fought with a good friend and, as a result, blown away a diet plan that you had followed well until then? Did an argument at work lead you to having one drink too many? Or did you jump a traffic signal after a having bad day, get pulled over by cops and screamed, “You don’t know my day was!” Have you woken up the next day wondering whether you could have avoided everything that you did? If yes, you are not alone.

What makes us turn into people whom we cannot recognize on bad days? Are there ways to avoid behaving in ways which make us feel miserable later, and force us to apologize to others?

Before we dive into reasons and explanations, let’s look at an interesting case study.

how to become a good entrepreneur while keeping your job

You long for it – to become an entrepreneur. Flexible working hours, being your own boss, hiring people to work for you and no office politics. Wherever you go, people ask how your business is doing. You say it’s slow but picking up, and their eyes fill up with respect. Does that life sound amazing?

It IS amazing. Pursuing something that you enjoy doing is a deeply satisfying feeling. Goodbye Monday morning blues.

Every day, people of all age groups are quitting their jobs to become entrepreneurs. You too can achieve this lifestyle that you desire.

But this life is not a bed of roses. In fact, far from it.

tips to build effective presentation skills

Picture this: You deliver a fabulous presentation on a topic. Your audience hangs on to every word you say. It ends in a long, genuine applause. Your audience is happy because they can take a lot away. Break the ice with important people in the audience is easy because they already have a positive impression of you.

Tough? Yes. Unless you possess a natural flair for speaking publicly.

Impossible? Certainly not! Many have mastered the art of presentations despite being afraid of them in the beginning.

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